A structured conversation to rebuild trust, one check-in at a time.
“I would like to do a Safety Check. Is now a good time?”
“My safety level today is ___ ”
(Provide a number between 0 and 10)
“I am sorry for the pain you have felt since our last check-in because of my behaviour. It is not fair and it is not your fault. I want to apologise for when ___ . What is significant about that is ___”
“I felt safest this week when ___”
“This week, the emotions I felt most were ___”
(More than 3)
“This week, the emotions I felt most were ___”
“I have been learning about myself ___”
(Specific)
“I had the hardest time this week when ___”
“For our restoration I have been ___ and I plan to ___”
“You can help me feel safer by ___”
Even minimal increases in safety are significant. Moving from a −5 to a −1 is progress worth celebrating. Trust is rebuilt one honest conversation at a time.